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John D · 2K+ Club

Keep Nagging Your Kids... Keep Them Alive.

bowtie · Secretary

That's so sad, my family sends our condolences.

Please keep an eye on Jr, he may not say so but it will affect him. I already know you're the kind of person who does, but make yourself available to him if he wants to talk about it and let him know that it's ok to see the school's counselors if he needs to too. Guys can bury that stuff for a long time and that isn't good. It affects other parts of thier life without themselves even noticing.

Chris R · 2K+ Club

God bless his family. My condolences to your son as well. I agree with Bryan. Keep an eye on your son and make sure to tell him your there for him and even though teens hate it, always tell them you love them. Which probably doesnt really need to be said but some parents always forget to do that.

dashboard · 2K+ Club

This is a tough post to reply to, tragic and profoundly heartbreaking, a family has lost a son, brother and loved one. The pain of the loss will last forever.

There is another side here as well. The driver will have to live with this for the rest of his life.

We go through life never knowing how close we sometimes are to death. Two blocks from my house there was a nasty car accident about ten days ago, one guy had just left the house to pickup a carton of milk for dinner.

http://www.cityofeagan.com/live/news.aspx?cid=38589&id=49708

We seem to learn the law of unintended consequences to late in life. Keep a close eye on your family, talk it through as a family and nag, nag a lot.

Derek69SS · Founding Member

Very sad. :( Prayers for his family...

All I can suggest is to be there if he needs to talk, and give him space if he needs to be alone, but let him know you're there either way. When I was in high school, a girl who was a friend and neighbor died in a car crash. Tough thing to deal with at that age... Dad offered to talk about it, I declined, but just knowing he was there if I needed him seemed to help.

Lost in the 60s · President

Sorry to hear of this and know your son is hurting. It's a tough situation as a parent too, being there for him but giving him space and time to come to you if he wants.

Forward our condolences to the family as well, when you see them.

John D · 2K+ Club

Jr. seems to be back to "normal" (whatever that is for a 17 yo). The 1st few days back at school were tough, all the reminders, talk, and that they painted the "Senior Wall" with a tribute...

Funeral service was today. Jr did go, and seems "OK" (at least when he got home today).

(I really hope this experience "sticks"... as cruel as it may sound it is a reinforcement about just how fragile our existance is - and an example of how a milli-second's misjudgement can alter life.)

-- Edited by John D on Tuesday 1st of May 2012 08:16:28 PM

Chris R · 2K+ Club

Wow, I totally forgot about that wall. That thing has had more paint jobs then I can even think of. They must strip it every once in a while, may after every school year, otherwise the paint would be thicker then the wall itself.